(Book Excerpt 2) Wounded Feminine: Grieving with Goddess Edited by Claire Dorey, Pat Daly, and Trista Hendren

[Editor’s Note: This and subsequent excerpt parts are from the anthology entitled Wounded Feminine: Grieving with Goddess, published by Girl God Books (2024).]

I’ve Taken all the Arrows I Can in One Lifetime

Angelique Autumn McGowan

I’ve taken all the arrows I can take in one lifetime

Not only is my Shield full of them, but now my body is loaded up too

I took them for and from my mom and dad

I took them for and from my ex-husband

I took them for and from the clients I served

I took them for and from the church

I took them at seminary

I took them for and from friends

I took them for and from family

I took them for and from my kids

I’ve taken all the arrows I can take in one lifetime!

I’m not sure what Karma I brought into this lifetime

but I do know I caused much of my own

The signs before I followed him to Williamsburg

I’ve walked on eggshells more than I can in one lifetime

My feet are scarred from being cut and bruised

Shoes quickly fell apart as the eggshells brutally cut into them

I finally just walked barefooted because I guess I knew I deserved to

I’ve walked on eggshells more than I can in one lifetime

I have no barriers left

I am vulnerable to the arrows and eggshells now as I enter my 70’s

Too much for one lifetime

I am weary

This heavy burden on my shoulders- the weight of the world-the weight of my family-the weight of too much caring and compassion

A therapist told me once: you lost your naivety too young in your life; you knew too much; you saw too much; you cared too much; it is too great a burden for one person to carry

And yet my Shield and arrows were still with me and I could not put them down.

Who would even care if I did

Who am I without them

I learned to fear my father at a very young age

I watched him abuse my mom verbally and emotionally

I accepted the messages that my body was dirty and too enticing to men

And then he told me that the woman he had the affair with “looked just like me”

I then chose someone a lot like him but smarter and more evil

I tried to protect my kids by adding extra arrows and a bigger shield

I really tried so hard all while I was defending my own self from his abuse

So in the end, I had to lay down the Shield protecting me from him so I could hold up the bigger shield to protect my kids

But alas even that Shield wasn’t big enough to protect them

In the end, I also caused their childhood trauma from my choices

And now here I am, bones laid bare, shield full of deadly arrows, my sword rusted and too heavy to carry and use any longer

My breastplate so damaged that I now have a fungus growing in its place

I can’t scratch it off even as it calls me to claw my skin raw

I could never have imagined the way my story would end.

But I no longer have anything to protect me from the constant arrows coming at me from every direction

I am totally vulnerable and defenseless

Me! Me! The strong and resilient one! The one there for everyone! The Wise One! The Skilled One!

Alone, clawing at my infected breasts! Crying tears of regret and sorrow

I have taken all the arrows I can in one lifetime!


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